En Gedi – Week 1  06/03/2018

This series is based on the book Song of Solomon in the Bible.  Read chapters 1 and 2.

Today’s message is about a being a Godly man.  We learn these points:

  1. Character Matters! (1:1-3)

  2. A Godly Reputation Matters! (1:4)

  3. Approval Matters! (1:4)

  4. Valuing Her Matters! (1:5-9)

  5. Compliments Matter! (1:10, Proverbs 18:21)

  6. The Pursuit Matters! (1:11-15)

  7. Financial Security Matters! (1:16, 1 Timothy 5:8)

  8. Lifting Her Up Matters! (2:1)

  9. Consistency Matters! (2:2)

  10. Safety Matters! (2:3)

  11. Public Affection Matters! (2:4)

  12. The Right Time Matters! (2:5-7)

  13. Dating Matters! (2:8-12)

 En Gedi – Week 2  – 06/10/2018

These messages are based on the Song of Solomon in the Bible.  Today’s verses refer to that book unless noted otherwise.

Godly women need to set the tone in their home.  (1:2)  A wife can choose to encourage or nag.  But the following verses make it clear what God would have her do:  Proverbs 27:15-16, Proverbs 21:9, Proverbs 21:19

A Godly woman:

  1.  Builds him up with her words!  (1:3)

  2. Is attracted to a man of character! (1:4)

  3. Has godly friends! (1:5)

  4. Is humble! (1:5-6)

  5. Is hard-working! ((1:6)

  6. Is holy! (1:7-14)

  7. Is a grateful woman! (1:16-17)

  8. Is confident! (2:1-3)

  9. Is responsive! (4-5)

  10. Knows she is worth the wait! (2:6-17)

Remember:

  • You are valuable!

  • You are precious!

  • You’re worth waiting for and pursuing!

 En Gedi – Week 3  – 06/24/2018

This series is based on the Song of Solomon.  All Scripture references, unless noted, are from that book.

The world teaches us that when we fall in love, then we will fall in line.  But the Path Principal states that Practice will always outperform a promise.

Pay attention to who God puts in front of you. (vs. 2:8-9)

Gentlemen, what your girl wants more than anything else, is to be pursued! (vs. 10-13)

Dating is an opportunity for you to serve one another, not for you to just take.  (Ephesians 5:21) Ideally, dating creates an environment where that kind of relationship is progressing. (vs. 2:14-17)

 En Gedi – Week 4  – 07/01/2018

Song of Solomon Chapter 3

 In my bed at nighta]”>[aI sought the one I love; I sought him, but did not find him.b]”>[bI will arise now and go about the city, through the streets and the plazas.
I will seek the one I love. I sought him, but did not find him. The guards who go about the city found me. I asked them, “Have you seen the one I love?” I had just passed them when I found the one I love. I held on to him and would not let him go until I brought him to my mother’s house— to the chamber of the one who conceived me. Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and the wild does of the field, do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time.c]”>[c]

When is the time for sex?  These verses talk about the appropriate time. (vs. 5)  Our society tries to disassociate sex and intimacy. If you’re having sex outside of marriage, or before marriage, it boils down to impatience.  1 Corinthians 13 says that love is patient.  Paul gives us a picture of what sex was intended for, and what it’s all about:

 Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s kingdom? Do not be deceived: No sexually immoral people, idolaters, adulterers, or males who have sex with males,b]”>[b] 10 no thieves, greedy people, drunkards, verbally abusive people, or swindlers will inherit God’s kingdom. 11 And some of you used to be like this. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.

12 “Everything is permissible for me,” but not everything is beneficial. “Everything is permissible for me,” but I will not be mastered by anything. 13 “Food is for the stomach and the stomach for food,” and God will do away with both of them. However, the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 God raised up the Lord and will also raise us up by his power. 15 Don’t you know that your bodies are a part of Christ’s body? So should I take a part of Christ’s body and make it part of a prostitute? Absolutely not! 16 Don’t you know that anyone joined to a prostitute is one body with her? For Scripture says, The two will become one flesh.c]”>[c] 17 But anyone joined to the Lord is one spirit with him.

18 Flee sexual immorality! Every other sind]”>[d] a person commits is outside the body, but the person who is sexually immoral sins against his own body. 19 Don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought at a price. So glorify God with your body.e]”>[e]

The Corinthians thought that what they did with their bodies didn’t matter as long as they gave their souls to Jesus.  He is trying to reframe their understanding and give them God’s perspective to change their practice.  Do you realize that you are the temple? If you’re a Christian, and you have surrendered yourself to Jesus, God’s new address is YOU!  That’s a big deal! Surrender your life to His worship, and He will send the Holy Spirit to live in you.  And through the Holy Spirit we can finally leave our lives of sin. But it starts with the gospel.

 En Gedi – Week 5  – 07/08/2018

Today we’re talking about the wedding event itself:

Who is this coming up from the wilderness like columns of smoke, scented with myrrh and frankincense from every fragrant powder of the merchant? Look! Solomon’s bed surrounded by sixty warriors from the mighty men of Israel. All of them are skilled with swords and trained in warfare. Each has his sword at his side to guard against the terror of the night.

King Solomon made a carriage for himself with wood from Lebanon. 10 He made its posts of silver, its backd]”>[d] of gold, and its seat of purple. Its interior is inlaid with lovee]”>[eby the young women of Jerusalem.  (Song of Solomon 3)

They are saying that their wedding day is a God-ordained event and prepared for it.

What begins to happen in most people’s mind, and we don’t mean to, we begin to shift from a covenant to a contract.  What is the difference?  A contract says, “If you do ______, then I ______.  But a covenant says, “No matter what, I DO!”  Gospel-centered marriages understand that we’re supposed to love one another out of reverence for Jesus:

22 Wives, submite]”>[e] to your husbands as to the Lord, 23 because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself for her 26 to make her holy, cleansingf]”>[f] her with the washing of water by the word.  (Ephesians 5)

Men, if you want to be a spiritual leader in your home:

  1. Start praying with and for her.

  2. Become a student of your wife.

Women, if you want to honor and support your husband:

  1. Communicate with your spouse.

  2. Share your wishes, hopes and dreams with your spouse.

 En Gedi – Week 6  – 07/15/2018

Song of Solomon 4 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

Man

How beautiful you are, my darling. How very beautiful! Behind your veil, your eyes are doves. Your hair is like a flock of goats streaming down Mount Gilead. Your teeth are like a flock of newly shorn sheep coming up from washing, each one bearing twins, and none has lost its young.a]”>[aYour lips are like a scarlet cord, and your mouthb]”>[b] is lovely. Behind your veil, your browc]”>[c] is like a slice of pomegranate. Your neck is like the tower of David,
constructed in layers. A thousand shields are hung on it— all of them shields of warriors. Your breasts are like two fawns, twins of a gazelle, that feed among the lilies. Until the day breaksd]”>[dand the shadows flee, I will make my way to the mountain of myrrh and the hill of frankincense. You are absolutely beautiful, my darling; there is no imperfection in you.

Come with me from Lebanon,e]”>[e] my bride; come with me from Lebanon! Descend from the peak of Amana, from the summit of Senir and Hermon,
from the dens of the lions, from the mountains of the leopards. You have captured my heart, my sister, my bride. You have captured my heart with one glance of your eyes, with one jewel of your necklace. 10 How delightful your caresses are, my sister, my bride. Your caresses are much better than wine,
and the fragrance of your perfume than any balsam. 11 Your lips drip sweetness like the honeycomb, my bride. Honey and milk are under your tongue. The fragrance of your garments is like the fragrance of Lebanon. 12 My sister, my bride, you are a locked garden— a locked gardenf]”>[f] and a sealed spring. 13 Your branches are a paradiseg]”>[g] of pomegranates with choicest fruits; henna with nard, 14 nard and saffron, calamus and cinnamon, with all the trees of frankincense, myrrh and aloes, with all the best spices. 15 You are a garden spring, a well of flowing water streaming from Lebanon.

Woman

16 Awaken, north wind; come, south wind. Blow on my garden, and spread the fragrance of its spices. Let my love come to his garden and eat its choicest fruits.

Man

I have come to my garden—my sister, my bride. I gathera]”>[a] my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk.

Narrator

Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with caresses!b]”>[b]

Now they’re married and in the wedding chambers.  He is not starting by touching, he starts with complimenting her! (vs. 1-5)

This guy understands, it’s more about what he can give of himself than what he can get. (vs. 6-7) The bedroom is a safe place. (vs. 8) When he calls her his sister, he is saying that they are a faith family first. (vs. 9) The marriage is a private garden, not a public park. (v. 12)  And now it is the time. (vs. 4:13-5:1)

The point is: The key to great sex is being a servant to your spouse!

 

 En Gedi – Week  7 – 07/22/2018

Song of Solomon Chapter 5

Woman

I was sleeping, but my heart was awake. A sound! My love was knocking!

Man

Open to me, my sister, my darling, my dove, my perfect one. For my head is drenched with dew, my hair with droplets of the night.

Woman

I have taken off my clothing. How can I put it back on? I have washed my feet. How can I get them dirty? My love thrust his hand through the opening, and my feelings were stirred for him. I rose to open for my love. My hands dripped with myrrh, my fingers with flowing myrrh on the handles of the bolt. I opened to my love, but my love had turned and gone away. My heart sank[c] because he had left.[d]
I sought him, but did not find him. I called him, but he did not answer. The guards who go about the city found me. They beat and wounded me; they took my cloak[e] from me— the guardians of the walls. Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you, if you find my love, tell him that I am lovesick.

Young Women

What makes the one you love better than another, most beautiful of women? What makes him better than another, that you would give us this charge?

Woman

10 My love is fit and strong,[fnotable among ten thousand. 11 His head is purest gold. His hair is wavy[gand black as a raven. 12 His eyes are like doves beside flowing streams, washed in milk and set like jewels.[h13 His cheeks are like beds of spice, mounds of[i] perfume. His lips are lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh. 14 His arms[j] are rods of gold set[k] with beryl. His body[l] is an ivory panel covered with lapis lazuli. 15 His legs are alabaster pillars set on pedestals of pure gold. His presence is like Lebanon, as majestic as the cedars. 16 His mouth is sweetness. He is absolutely desirable. This is my love, and this is my friend, young women of Jerusalem.

Today we look at how married couples fight.  In verses 2-6, they are both wanting different things. In verse 6, she responds in love.  And when you do that, it draws his heart to you.

We need to say, “Honey, when you ______, I feel _________.” Now, do not say, “When you _______, you MAKE me feel ______.” You are responsible for your own feelings.

In verses 8-16, she talks to her friends about him. How do you talk about your spouse?  Do you know how powerful your words are? You shouldn’t talk smack about your spouse.  Wise words lead to healing and they will speak life into your marriage.

 

En Gedi – Week  8– 07/29/2018

Song of Solomon 7 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

How beautiful are your sandaled feet, princess![aThe curves of your thighs are like jewelry, the handiwork of a master. Your navel is a rounded bowl; it never lacks mixed wine. Your belly is a mound of wheat surrounded by lilies. Your breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle. Your neck is like a tower of ivory, your eyes like pools in Heshbon by Bath-rabbim’s gate. Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon looking toward Damascus. Your head crowns you[b] like Mount Carmel, the hair of your head like purple cloth— a king could be held captive in your tresses. How beautiful you are and how pleasant, my love, with such delights! Your stature is like a palm tree; your breasts are clusters of fruit. I said, “I will climb the palm tree and take hold of its fruit.” May your breasts be like clusters of grapes, and the fragrance of your breath like apricots. Your mouth[c] is like fine wine—

Woman

flowing smoothly for my love, gliding past my lips and teeth![d10 I am my love’s, and his desire is for me.

11 Come, my love, let’s go to the field; let’s spend the night among the henna blossoms.[e12 Let’s go early to the vineyards; let’s see if the vine has budded, if the blossom has opened, if the pomegranates are in bloom. There I will give you my caresses. 13 The mandrakes give off a fragrance, and at our doors is every delicacy, both new and old. I have treasured them up for you, my love.

In the first verses, the man speaks life into his wife.  Are you speaking life into your bride?  Is this how you speak to your spouse?  Solomon is basically saying, “Baby, you have everything I want and everything I need…And I see you as a gift from God.”  We should tell our spouse, “Everything I want and everything I need I’m finding in you.”

Wives, are you pleasant? Are you pleasant at home? In the morning?

Guys, you have what it takes to improve your game and pursue your wives.

Couples, the most secure thing you can do for a teenager is let them grow up in a house where mommy and daddy visibly love one another.

Your love can grow old or you can grow old in love.  It’s your choice. What are you doing with the covenant you made?

 

En Gedi – Week  9– 08/05/2018

Til Death Do Us Part

Song of Solomon 8 Christian Standard Bible (CSB)

If only I could treat you like my brother,[aone who nursed at my mother’s breasts, I would find you in public and kiss you, and no one would scorn me. I would lead you, I would take you, to the house of my mother who taught me.[bI would give you spiced wine to drink from the juice of my pomegranate. May his left hand be under my head, and his right arm embrace me. Young women of Jerusalem, I charge you, do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time.

Young Women

Who is this coming up from the wilderness, leaning on the one she loves?

Woman

I awakened you under the apricot tree. There your mother conceived you; there she conceived and gave you birth. Set me as a seal on your heart, as a seal on your arm. For love is as strong as death; jealousy is as unrelenting as Sheol. Love’s flames are fiery flames—
an almighty flame![cA huge torrent cannot extinguish love; rivers cannot sweep it away. If a man were to give all his wealth[d] for love, it would be utterly scorned.

Even in marriage, sex is the the follow-through of the deep abiding love that you have for one another…and it’s not the appetizer!  That means your wife should always feel safe and secure in your presence.  Husbands: 1. You don’t raise your voice to her. 2. You don’t flex 3. You don’t growl like a bear. 4. You don’t punch the steering wheel!

When is divorce acceptable?  The default position in Scripture is STAY MARRIED!  See 1 Corinthians 7:10, Matthew 5:31-32, Matthew 19:3-11 and Hosea 3:1-3.

Even though the default position is to remain married, the Bible makes the case for a few instances where you can get divorced:

  1. Physical abuse

  2. If you’re married to an unbelieving spouse and they leave you.

  3. Infidelity